What is your deep, dark fantasy? In this post we will be talking about bedroom role play. Do you ever find yourself feeling bored in the bedroom? Do you long for a little bit of excitement and adventure? If so, then erotic roleplay might be just what you need!

Roleplaying allows you to explore new identities and power dynamics with your partner, and it can be a whole lot of fun. Not sure where to start? Don't worry, we've got you covered. Read on for our beginner's guide to erotic roleplay.

What is Erotic Roleplay?

Erotic roleplay is any form of sexual activity in which participants take on different roles in order to heighten their sexual pleasure. Couples can roleplay by assuming the role of characters from their favorite TV show or movie, by enacting scenes from their fantasies, or by simply trying out a new power dynamic (such as teacher/student, boss/employee, etc.). The sky is the limit when it comes to erotic roleplay—the only limit is your imagination!

How to Get Started with Erotic Roleplay

The best way to get started with erotic roleplay is to sit down with your partner and brainstorm some ideas. What are some fantasies you've always wanted to explore? What are some roles you've always wanted to try? Once you've come up with a few ideas, it's time to start planning. Make sure you each have a clear understanding of what will happen during the scene, and make sure all parties are comfortable with the activities that will take place. It's also important to set some boundaries—know what you're comfortable with and what you're not comfortable with before getting started. Once everything is planned out and everyone is on board, it's time to get down to business!

Home to overcome shyness during role-play?

If you’ve ever pictured yourself participating in roleplay sex, than you’ve probably also envisioned the myriad of ways you can embarrass yourself in the process. The good news is: roleplay sex is just for fun. While you may have a deeper intention for exploring roleplay, it’s important to remember that, at the end of the day, sex is just a way for us to experience pleasure and connect with others. If we can accomplish those two things (or even one of those things), I’d say we’ve achieved something! 

If the feeling of dread is preventing you from exploring your roleplay fantasy, consider trying one of these pre-roleplay hacks:

Prepare for Pleasure - The moments leading up to any new experience can feel daunting. One way that we can temper these anxieties, is to find small ways to dip our toes into the activity before it even begins. Some examples of this might extend to sexting while in character, watching films for Inpso or dressing up in your costume.

Step Out of the Comfort Zone - Going out into public spaces, such as a restaurant or a bar, can alleviate some of the anxiety around roleplay. After all, your waiter isn’t going to critique your performance, because they aren’t aware a performance is being put on! Starting your scene in a public space, and working your way back to a private space, can be an erotic way to raise the stakes of your roleplay scene and get you more comfortable with your character.

Dirty Talk - Dirty talk can be a great way to prepare for a roleplay experience, because it allows people to experiment with new ways to articulate their desires. So what are you waiting for? Grab your partner and let your imaginations run wild!

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Cristene San Gabriel